Why We Push and Pull in Love

Have you ever wondered why you and your partner get into the same basic fight over and over regardless of the topic? Sue Johnson, developer of Hold Me Tight workshops, changed the way we look at relationships. We are neurologically wired to react with intensity....

It’s Not About the Dishes

Sometimes seemingly small things get in the way of a good time. When that happens to you and your partner, we’ve got a tip to help you get back to connection and enjoying summer. If it's not about the dishes... what is it about? A significant finding of adult...

Our Story That Drives Our Mission

We (Kim and Dennis) sat down recently with Michelle Puster, host of Compassionate Heart Parenting to talk about our Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy journey and how it freed us to become the parents our kids need. Our mission: to give the ones we love all of us -and...

Criticism is Really a Cry For Connection

When My Partner Protests Does it feel like your partner brings a full court press when you make a mistake? When they get upset, does it feel like they are pushing you away and telling you what a bad partner you are? If so, this article is for you. This time we will...

When My Partner Pulls Away

What Does it Mean When My Partner Pulls Away? Does your partner regularly turn away, make a joke, minimize your concern, or shut down when you reach for them? In the last article we mentioned these behaviors are typically driven by overwhelm and fear of failing. This...

I don’t think that means what you think it means

Today’s tip is inspired by a line from the Princess Bride movie where Inigo tells Vizinni “I don’t think that word means what you think it means” after Vizinni repeatedly states something is inconceivable and then it happens.  Kim and Dennis often see a similar...