Being Truly Known & Loved
Powerful bonding moments come when you and your flaws are truly known by your partner, and you still experience your partner’s acceptance.
Find the Fix to Primal Panic
You don’t need to fight primal panic and its cycle alone. By going through the emotion, you discover you can reach out for help and
How To Know When You’re Ready to Repair
If we can take our partner’s perspective, we’re ready to start a talk to repair. We don’t need to agree with their view. We must see the logic of their perspective. We start by asking three basic questions:
Discover Raws Spots & Transform Your Relationship
When a raw spot is hit we reflexively go into fight, flight, freeze, appease or disassociate mode. This takes less than 1/100 of a second. Our sudden reactive change in emotion, feeling, and action can become our signal that a raw spot has been hit. By following these 5 steps we can use these sudden reactive responses to help us understand and tame our cycle.
3 Ways to Revive the Intimacy & Connection
For those wanting to add some spice and connection to their relationship, we have 3 ways to do just that with the 3 commitments that foster profound connection. Commit Time: Plan for intentional time for the two of you this year. Maybe that is a daily or weekly time...
The ABCs of Healthy Relationship
Communication that positively connects us to others is central to healthy, fulfilling relationships of all kinds. Humans are inherently social animals, and our prime drive is to bond with others. If we are not safe in our relationships, especially with our most important people, we experience all manner of mental and physical distress. So, how do we create those bonded connections with others?
Powerful Thoughts from Recent Hold Me Tight® Seattle Couples
Another year of Hold Me Tight Seattle workshops comes to an end as we look forward to a new year of couples workshops in both Seattle and now Portland, Oregon.
The takeaways our couples have been having are powerful reminders of why we do this…
Love Listens
Love listens, it has no need to control It does not fix It listens with patience, with compassion, with curiosity, strength and courage It knows its own limits and knows when to hold, it holds, and let’s be... Love listens and knows that taking control steals from...