Criticism is Really a Cry For Connection

When My Partner Protests Does it feel like your partner brings a full court press when you make a mistake? When they get upset, does it feel like they are pushing you away and telling you what a bad partner you are? If so, this article is for you. This time we will...

When My Partner Pulls Away

What Does it Mean When My Partner Pulls Away? Does your partner regularly turn away, make a joke, minimize your concern, or shut down when you reach for them? In the last article we mentioned these behaviors are typically driven by overwhelm and fear of failing. This...

I don’t think that means what you think it means

Today’s tip is inspired by a line from the Princess Bride movie where Inigo tells Vizinni “I don’t think that word means what you think it means” after Vizinni repeatedly states something is inconceivable and then it happens.  Kim and Dennis often see a similar...

Catching the Cycle

A strategy for noticing you’re in the cycle & starting to defeat it. One of the first things that will help improve the effectiveness of EFT therapy is to focus on catching yourself in your cycle with your partner. It is much easier to catch your partner in the...

Resolve To Be Intentional Pursuing your Partner

Becoming Intentional In Your Relationship Dedicate time to your relationship. If you want to improve your golf game or your leadership skills, you invest time and often money. Improving your relationship also requires investment. Life is full of distractions. Spending...