Being Truly Known & Loved

What is a Hold Me Tight® Conversation? Powerful moments in relationship come when you are truly known by your partner – flaws and all – and still experience your partner’s acceptance and desire to be with you. That is the destination of the Hold Me Tight®...

Find the Fix to Primal Panic

What is ‘Primal Panic’? When your primary attachment bond is threatened, you are wired to have an intense reaction. Sue Johnson calls this response primal panic. She coined the term in her book, Hold Me Tight®. It refers to your wired-in need for a safe...

How To Know When You’re Ready to Repair

Relationship Repair After a Rocky Moment Many of us go through life trying to avoid painful moments of rupture or hurt with our partner. These efforts rarely work. Instead, they reinforce and intensify our painful cycle. Emotionally Focused Therapists and Hold Me...

Discover Raws Spots & Transform Your Relationship

When you think of “raw spots,” what comes to mind? During Hold Me Tight® Seattle workshops participants often give answers like: “sore”, “injury”, “scabbed over” and “old wound”. We define raw spots as partially healed-over emotional wounds that are still festering...