Exiting Your Conflict Cycle
If you have a partner, then you have a basic pattern in moments of tension. Not every fight fits your basic pattern – yet most do. Over 70% of couples world-wide share a similar pattern. It goes something like this:
Finding the Right Things to Reach for in Your Relationship
Are you frustrated that no matter how much you try to get connection, appreciation, or acceptance from your partner, it just gets further out of reach?
You might be reaching for stand-in needs instead of your adult attachment needs.
Getting Out of Your Conflict Déjà Vu Loop
Have you found yourself in an endless loop of “déjà vu” moments – the same basic conflict on repeat? Whether it’s about chores, money, date night, or another topic, you get stuck in the same basic pattern of pursue and withdraw. This pattern is normal for romantic partners.
What are the 7 Hold Me Tight® Conversations For A Lifetime of Love
Powerful bonding moments come when you and your flaws are truly known by your partner, and you still experience your partner’s acceptance.
Being Truly Known & Loved
Powerful bonding moments come when you and your flaws are truly known by your partner, and you still experience your partner’s acceptance.
Find the Fix to Primal Panic
You don’t need to fight primal panic and its cycle alone. By going through the emotion, you discover you can reach out for help and
How To Know When You’re Ready to Repair
If we can take our partner’s perspective, we’re ready to start a talk to repair. We don’t need to agree with their view. We must see the logic of their perspective. We start by asking three basic questions:
Discover Raws Spots & Transform Your Relationship
When a raw spot is hit we reflexively go into fight, flight, freeze, appease or disassociate mode. This takes less than 1/100 of a second. Our sudden reactive change in emotion, feeling, and action can become our signal that a raw spot has been hit. By following these 5 steps we can use these sudden reactive responses to help us understand and tame our cycle.