Find the Fix to Primal Panic

What is ‘Primal Panic’? When your primary attachment bond is threatened, you are wired to have an intense reaction. Sue Johnson calls this response primal panic. She coined the term in her book, Hold Me Tight®. It refers to your wired-in need for a safe...

How To Know When You’re Ready to Repair

Relationship Repair After a Rocky Moment Many of us go through life trying to avoid painful moments of rupture or hurt with our partner. These efforts rarely work. Instead, they reinforce and intensify our painful cycle. Emotionally Focused Therapists and Hold Me...

Discover Raws Spots & Transform Your Relationship

When you think of “raw spots,” what comes to mind? During Hold Me Tight® Seattle workshops participants often give answers like: “sore”, “injury”, “scabbed over” and “old wound”. We define raw spots as partially healed-over emotional wounds that are still festering...

3 Ways to Revive the Intimacy & Connection

For those wanting to add some spice and connection to their relationship, we have 3 ways to do just that with the 3 commitments that foster profound connection. Commit Time: Plan for intentional time for the two of you this year. Maybe that is a daily or weekly time...